Your spouse may have a harder time forgiving himself or herself than you do forgiving your partner.
Unless your partner is someone who has had serial affairs, the guilt usually catches up with them. It is our experience that when someone really gets to the place of understanding and accepting the fact that they have had an affair, they often feel shame and embarrassment.
It is easier to forgive a betraying spouse when he or she has accepted full responsibility for the affair and worked on ways to make amends and build trust. Even if that never happens, however, many find that they truly forgive for themselves and their own mental health.
If you would like to find a way to forgive your partner, we can help you through that process through in person or online counseling or coaching.
Contact us at CounselingRelationshipsOnline.com or CouplesCounselingofLouisville.com.