It Is Hard To Talk About the Details of the Affair and It Is Hard Not To Talk About the Details of the Affair

So, is it better to talk about it or not?

The worst part of an affair is often the secrecy. Healing from an affair requires that there be openness, not secrets. In the long run, it is much better to talk about the basic details of the affair than to cover them up or smooth over them.

Talking about the basic details involves answering the questions of “who, what, when and where”. This does not mean details like the positions that were used. The partner who had the affair should answer the questions honestly. The other partner should only ask the questions that he or she is really ready to hear.

Denial, in the short run, often leads to an explosion in the long run and does not help a couple achieve the intimacy and connection that is imperative to prevent future affairs.

You have just read our opinion … professional therapists who have helped many couples through recovery from affairs. We would be interested in your thoughts and experiences. Please leave them in the comment section or head over to our forum on our Healing from Affairs website and share them on the message board.